Did I totally blow it?

Maybe the reason she feels that the strip clubs are disrespectful and make her uncomfortable is because she wants to feel like she's all the woman you need and the only woman you would want to look at in that way. If she's truly wife material then it would go a long way with her if you told her you understood why she doesn't like you going to the clubs and if you had to give that up for her then she's worth it. But don't say it if you don't mean it or can't stop. You'll only end up being resentful and cause problems in the relationship. Good luck.